Tuesday, June 10, 2008

Forgiveness I learnt

" To err is human and to forgive is divine" I learnt this in school. I believed it was true and incorporated it to a large extent in my life growing up.As kids we believe everything our parents say and our teachers say ,they could never be wrong to us. Somewhere the innocence is lost and as teeanagers we go through a phase where we want to decide for ourselves and in the process of fighting with ourselves and with our parents trying to decide who we really we are we lose track of the good things we learnt in school.Practice maketh perfect they say , we forget to practice the simple philosophies that we learnt in school , some that we thought were very important .As adults we lose the hope and the smile we always had when we were kids.
Our demands were so limited but we were still happy. On a hot day an ice cream cone would be heaven but nothing is good enough anymore.Where did we lose track and how do we make it easy on our kids who are growing up stay focussed on the simple pleasures and teach them that just by smiling things suddenly seem very easy.
When I wake up every morning I tell myself that my life is good and its a gift from god.Ofcourse its not perfect and there are somethings that I would like changed about myself and around me but this was meant to be and God gave it to me for a reason. I have learnt to appreciate childhood through my kids again.
There are days when my daughter comes back complaining from school that a certain friend did not want to play with her .She is down for a couple of minutes and when I give her ,her favorite snack she seems to miraculously bounce back and forget all about the bad day she had. The next morning is a whole new day for her and she might play with the same friend today and forget all about yesterday.
As adults why is it so difficult for us to move on and shrug away and approach our old enemies. The answer to how we can be happy is right in front of us,we just need to look at our kids. If we learn from them and continue to keep smiling even at people who have done us bad they might one day smile back at us. We are in the process teaching our kids to love more and hate less.
Its true that there is a circle of life in everything. We learn from our kids and in the process teach them that hating only makes you feel hopeless and unhappy.When we need to smile there should be no thought associated with it,stop thinking and keep smiling. One day it will become a habit and you will start spreading the cheer and light up the place you walk into.

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